Am I Hanging on Too Tight?


Hold on!

Who can relate to holding on so tight that we choke off future possibilities? Recognizing we’re clutching onto something or someone for dear life is the tricky part for almost everyone. Our culture tells us we’ve “arrived” when this, that, and the other are accomplished. Some of us look at our life as a ladder of sorts. We get to a step and hold on tight to love, a house, family, college, career, 401K, vacations, etc. We gather the things that make up our lives and then grab for the next rung.

We head straight up as best we can until we reach the “top.” We tend to collect people and things along the way and place them carefully in their perspective positions in our life. For many of us, we’ll do anything to keep our collection intact.


  • What if life isn’t a series of collector’s items?
  • What would life look like if we opened ourselves up to new possibilities?
  • What would happen if we allowed things to flow?
  • What if we invite change?

A few years back, my husband and I bought my dream home. It was everything and more than I could imagine; honestly, it was the pinnacle for me. We had worked hard for it, and it took us years to accomplish. Finally, we manifested this wonderful home we could enjoy and share. I had reached what I thought was the top of my ladder—and then a new opportunity arrived.

I was holding on so tight that I was choking out any other possibilities. I was closing doors that lead to new adventures and better circumstances for my family. Luckily for me, I have a husband that thrives on flow, and he’s an influencer. It took time, but I realized there’s always something better waiting for us to discover. There is no “top.”

Growth is always better. Our minds expand when we expand our views, literally and figuratively. I’m figuring out new things, meeting new people, seeing new sights, and adding to my life experience. I’m not encouraging everyone to move. Instead, I would like to invite you to visit the areas of your life that are set in stone. If you can’t live without it, maybe it’s time to evaluate the situation. If you’re holding on tight to anything, loosen your grip a little and see what new doors open.

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